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IN THIS LESSON
In this module, we’ll explore communication etiquette in the United States, covering both verbal and non-verbal behavior, how to interact respectfully, and cultural expectations. Understanding communication etiquette helps navigate social and professional interactions more smoothly, allowing you to build stronger connections with Americans.
Politeness and Courtesy
In the U.S., politeness and courtesy are important, especially when interacting with people you don’t know well. Americans value respectful communication, whether in formal or casual settings.
"Please" and "Thank You": Saying "please" when making a request and "thank you" after receiving help or a favor is a sign of politeness.
Example: "Can you pass the salt, please?" and "Thank you for your help!"
"Excuse Me" and "Sorry": If you need to get someone’s attention or apologize, it’s polite to say "Excuse me" or "Sorry."
Example: "Excuse me, can I ask you something?" or "Sorry, I didn’t mean to interrupt."
Americans appreciate directness, but being too blunt can sometimes be seen as impolite. It’s important to balance direct communication with kindness and respect.
Greeting Etiquette
Handshakes: In professional or formal settings, it’s common to greet someone with a firm handshake. It is considered a respectful way to introduce yourself.
Example: In a job interview, you would shake hands with the interviewer while saying, "Nice to meet you."
Hugs or High-Fives: In more casual settings, especially among friends, hugs or high-fives are common ways to greet or celebrate.
Example: "Good to see you!" followed by a quick hug or high-five is common among close friends.
Cultural Note: In the U.S., personal space is valued, so unless you are close to someone, it’s usually best to stick to handshakes rather than hugs.
Respecting Personal Space
Americans value their personal space. When talking to someone, especially a stranger or someone you don’t know well, standing too close can make them uncomfortable. A distance of about 1 to 2 feet (around 30 to 60 cm) is considered appropriate for casual conversation.
Example: In a conversation with a friend, you might stand a bit closer, but with someone you just met, it’s respectful to maintain more distance.
Turn-Taking in Conversations
In American communication, taking turns in conversation is important. Interrupting someone while they are speaking is considered impolite. Here are some ways to show respect when someone else is talking:
Listening Attentively: Americans expect you to listen while they’re talking and wait for your turn to speak. Nodding your head or making small verbal acknowledgments like "I see" or "Right" shows that you’re engaged.
Example: When someone is explaining something to you, make eye contact and nod to show you’re paying attention.
Pausing Before Responding: Allow the other person to finish what they’re saying before responding. If you need to add something, wait for a natural break in the conversation.
Practice: Think about a recent conversation you had. How did you show the person that you were listening?
Asking for Clarification Politely
It’s common to ask questions if you don’t understand something. However, it’s important to phrase these questions politely to avoid sounding abrupt.
Example: Instead of saying, "What?" you can say, "Could you repeat that, please?" or "I’m sorry, could you explain that again?"
Tipping Culture
In many service situations in the U.S., tipping is considered part of polite behavior. For example, tipping is common in restaurants, hair salons, and for taxi drivers.
How Much to Tip: The typical tip in a restaurant is 15-20% of the total bill. For other services like haircuts or taxis, a tip of about 10-15% is common.
Example: After dining at a restaurant, you would leave a tip for the waiter or waitress based on the service you received.
Cultural Note: Not tipping, especially in restaurants, can be seen as rude, as many service workers rely on tips as part of their income.
Formal vs. Informal Communication
Americans adjust their language depending on the setting. It’s important to recognize when to use formal language and when it’s okay to be more casual.
Formal Situations: In professional or academic settings, more formal language is expected. Using titles (like Mr., Ms., or Dr.) and more polite phrases is important.
Example: "Good morning, Mr. Smith. It’s a pleasure to meet you."
Casual Situations: With friends, casual language and slang are common, and it’s normal to speak informally.
Example: "Hey, how’s it going?" is appropriate among friends or peers.
Email and Written Communication Etiquette
When writing emails or messages, especially in formal contexts, it’s important to be respectful and clear.
Formal Email: Start with a polite greeting (e.g., "Dear Professor Johnson") and close with "Sincerely" or "Best regards."
Example: "Dear Professor Johnson, I wanted to follow up on our conversation last week about the assignment. Please let me know if you need any additional information."
Informal Email or Text: For friends or casual communication, shorter, friendlier greetings are fine.
Example: "Hey! Just checking in. Are we still meeting later?"
Practice Respectful Communication
Here are some practice activities to help you understand American communication etiquette:
Responding to a Request: If someone asks for your help, how would you politely agree or decline?
Writing a Formal Email: Draft an email to a teacher asking for help on a school project. Use formal language and structure.
Turn-Taking in Conversations: Imagine you’re talking to a classmate. How would you show that you’re listening and respond respectfully?
Summary of Module 2.4
Politeness is key in U.S. communication, with phrases like "please," "thank you," and "excuse me" used often.
Greeting someone with a handshake or polite words is common in formal settings, while hugs or high-fives are more casual.
Americans value their personal space and expect respectful turn-taking in conversations.
Tipping is a major part of etiquette in many service situations.
Communication style in the U.S. varies between formal and informal depending on the context.
